Dear Annie, I met this wonderful man about a month ago. We had an awesome conversation - our connection was electrical. I can't remember having felt so in sync with someone... Anyway, as we parted, we exchanged email addresses, and he said that he'd love to get together for a glass of wine sometime.

I emailed him twice, but the invitation never materialized. In the meantime, I ran into him at a couple of related events. We didn't get a chance to talk, as we were both busy working the room. The last time this happened, I approached him as he was getting ready to leave. He said that he was busy, but that he'd love to talk over a glass of wine sometime.

I emailed him, and asked him to go to a concert with me, but he was busy that evening, although he said he should have some free time in the future. I would absolutely love to get to know him better - the chemistry is unbelievable! What should I do next? Kim

Dear Kim, You have my sympathy. We've all been there. You meet someone, and it feels so right. He says that he want to see you again, and then...nothing happens.

The sad truth is that he was very charming. He did a great job of creating chemistry. He definitely liked talking with you, but for whatever reason, he is not willing or able to pursue a relationship with you.

Remember, dating is like tennis. If you want to maximize your chances for success, let the man serve. Sometimes he serves twice, but never more than that. You hit the ball. He hits the ball.  If he doesn't hit the ball back, it means he doesn't want to play. Most men want to be polite when exiting a conversation. He may say, "let's get together" or "I'll call you". It seems harmless to him, and he may want to keep his options open. You only know if he reallys mean it when he calls you and makes a plan.

In this situation, it's his job to follow through, and your job to move on. If he wants to contact you, he will. In the meantime, keep your heart to open, so that you're available to a guy who is willing and able to pursue a relationship with you. As long as it's being occupied by Mr. Let's Have A Glass of Wine Sometime, you won't be available to Mr. Right. Here's to a great love life! Annie